Thursday, July 31, 2008

Fort Matanzas,shopping, and some chores

UGH. I am exhausted!I've been pretty productive today
Woke up early this morning and mowed the front yard- the afternoon storm started at noon and kept me from getting to the backyard.Ri cuddled in bed with Rory while I mowed. I came in and Rory laughed at how dirty I was and told me to get lost 'cause she was watching movies with her . I did cuddle with them for a little while after my shower.Rory woke up super sweet and cuddly.. I tried to wake her and Ri up before I went to mow the yard,too ,but she just told me to give her kisses back .
Ri went to work-he really wanted to stay home though. I did that yoga workout I found on youtube- jeez! that was a harder one than expected.
Made some AWESOME vegan cupcakes:

and started cleaning.Even got through the whole pile of laundry ,while having a dance
party with Rory.

Yesterday- our Sunday -- was Ri's day off. We had planned to mow the yard then- but it was NASTY stormy all day. We had to get groceries. I was stressed. I felt all anxiety attachy for some reason- the whole shopping on a budget thing is getting to me.. and RI and it feels almost like we are having trouble communicating or different ideas of budget cutting-like if it is cheaper to buy this-than that or not buy it at all.Whats needed and not is such an ISSUE that I want to vomit. I long for simple household items ,and worry about things like maple syrup.PLUS. I can't effing figure out where shit is going- why it feels like our groceries are more and more expensive and running out faster and faster.

We ended up going to walmart and shopping. Rory was -fairly-well behaved- not like she was Tuesday(I'll get to that) ,but good.She kept fussing for cookies ,and junk.She was a bit stir crazy, and overtired.Doing that country accent too.
We DID use our cloth grocery bags in walmart for once though- that always seems like such a hassle there that we don't usually.the cashier didn't seem to bothered by it either :) .

Went to publix for the last few things- wallyworld doesn't have.We didn't get much there at all- and Rory was much better behaved with a car cart and a free cookie. We weighed ourselves- OMG I weigh 147 and half. WELL over a weight I am comfy with(closer to 135),regardless of the fact that my weight fluctuates wildly between 135 and 145 and AF was in town- THAT is too much, I know I have gained weight ,and not the muscle weight.(usually scale numbers alone don't phase me) I FEEL the weight I have gained.I need to step up my activity.

Ri made manacotti when we got home- we still had ricotta left over from my lasagna endeavor.Rory bounced off the wall and helped Ri make dinner- and some tea( found out she prefers her tea hot NOT iced!!)The manacotti was sooo good- and Rory actually loved it. Ri had cut strips of the the extra pasta and put it in sauce in case she didn't like it that way- but she tasted it and all her food (in hopes of some chocolate chips for dessert).Ri and I stayed up after she fell asleep watching movies.Not tooo late though because of my lawn attacking plan.

Tuesday- our Saturday - and what an awesome day!.. well maybe not the dental visit part.
We had been talking about visiting Fort Matanzas for awhile- its free and thought Rory would enjoy the boat ride. So we decided we would head straight there after my apt.We had stayed up WAY WAY too late Monday night( practically stayed up until my apt)-Rory and Ri dozed in the car while I got a super quick spot filing.I think he actually had four peoples appointments going at once. Crazy quick.Spent most of the rest of the day with a numb nose and upper lip... My dentist REALLY makes sure I am numb. I slept most of the way there. So did Rory. It was still fairly early when we got there - and would be another hour until the next boat.So we explored and went on the trail a bit.Rory was soo awesomely behaved.Despite being tired, and a little hungry- which is usually such a BIG BIG no-no for her. She was soo sweet and fun- she did ask for fries quite a few times- and we promised we would get her something special for being soo good even though she was sleepy: LOVE wild oaks!

Rory thought this mushroom was soo neat.
And "you have to take a picture of this leaf daddy!"

She was really into all the different leaves on the "trail"
It was far more crowded than I have ever seen it. Its usually pretty dead - Ri said the same thing about how every time we have been before it been pretty much just us.This time there was a line waiting for the ferry/boat well before the 30 mins after the hour when it boards.
This guy was soo cool- while we waited for the ferry across to the fort he told us all about the fort and the story of Jenkins' Ear made our wait in the muggy Fl midday heat quite a bit more interesting.

There were a bunch of little crabs all over the ground outside the fort.Rory was like "don't put me down"

Once you got in you can go up this teeny claustrophobic ladder to get to the top. All the kids we lined up and one kids grandpa, and another kids mom-differnt groups had got together and were spotting all of them up it- Rory rushed to be one of the "kids",she was the smallest one and loved it... it was really sweet.
She did not however like being up there once she saw it.

I think the only thing Rory liked up top was the teeny flower growing out of the wall.

- I have nt figured out why Rory thinks checkers is soo neat. i am going to have to learn to play just to teach her how tho.
The uncomfy fort beds
After the ride back - it was a nice ride with a little breeze. I think Rory liked the boat ride the best.- we decided we'd head for flager beach , and look for food on the way.We didn't find any- and since we PROMISED Rory fries(she has been asking for fries since Lily was born- Bk in particular).. we decided we would check the nav and go to Bk,a rare treat..well we get all the way there.. and burger king is under construction!!So we check out the plaza next door. --
We spot a little bistro coffee shop- and decide to take a chance. Their menu has pannini's and pirogies!! HEAVEN. ...and yes, they had fries. Nerve wracking at first step in the door. This place- is NOT kid friendly.TEENY little glass top tables and tiny cushy plush seating,luckily it was mostly empty-and even more amazing, Rory was a perfect angel. They have wifi and the coffee smells incredible(we didn't get any tho) .
- oh god ,how i wish such a place were nearby...and yet not- I would be soo broke.
After our lunch- we hit the beach only for a bit ... we were worn out,and a storm was coming
The water was surprisingly COLD ,too.Rory and Ri got a great swim in- I got in only to my waist LOL.
Rory was soo big and cute on the way home

Watching the storm

We got home before it was even 6pm and ended up sleeping most the day and night. It was well worth it tho.

So , anyway.
been talking to Lissy and I guess she will be heading back into FL soon. ah, stress- such fun.

Ri is on his way home talking of making some yummy dinner. :) ..and Rory surprisingly crashed out while I was finishing this... guess the sugar high from those cupcakes wore off.
I have more dishes.

Monday, July 28, 2008

Storms,wild turkeys,bad accents and a story all in a days work.

Look - Wild turkeys hanging out in the front yard.

How to stall dinnertime:

Afternoon Storm:


Yesterday- I made some really yummy whole grain muffins,.. and after G&M left last night Ri DID make the pasta I had been looking forward to all day.
My eyes have been really bothering me- the other night i almost went into a panic. I guess it was a migraine- I don't really get those. I guess I should get my eyes checked. I probably DO need glasses. :( ...or at least to stare at the monitor less.
Rory has been really bugging me with her new accent. She adds a Y to middle of every word- sounding annoyingly country,no one she knows talks like "thayat" - I keep correcting her.

Today-Its been a really yucky day.feeling gross from last night

Odd though, Should have been a nice day.
My diva cup came in th mail JUST beating in AF.
My recycling ACTUALLY got picked up with week. Rory had a tea party and a long nap and was thrilled Ri burnt "cats&dogs" for her. I have felt crappy and lazy.
I should have done soooo much.... I didn't.
Ran out of TP-
and Ri just called and told me he got a 90 $ ticket because of the dim taillight.

I have a dentist apt tomorrow,and Ri wants to go somewhere.
I should do some laundry, and make some food.

The story of G

Time for:

~~~~~~~~~~~~~The story of G.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Oh, ..well, yeah.
I know ,I have been holding off on sharing this tidbit.
- the scandalous nature of it, is a bit mature for my typically pg13 blog. Also, I fear some of our other friends may have taken copyrights to the story as they are working on a fact based "tales of the trailerpark" comedy book ,movie and tv show deal based on it... Out of respect for the intimate nature of the subject matter-for the 1st time ever I am gonna leave out names,(Though, anyone who knows me IRL ,will most likely know EXACTLY to whom I am referring) .

I wouldn't bring it up ,it deals very little in what my blog is usually about --but last night we got in yet another head on collision with it all.

You see,I had my evening planned out- I FINALLY pried myself away from the internet. Set Rory up with "The Lion king" and a video game(which she tantrumed about because I couldn't get her to the third level)... started yoga(finally found one I like on youtube)- planning to make spaghetti when the dishwasher was done, also planning on vacuuming when I get done contorting my body awkwardly.
--Sooo.Here I am in downward dog- I hear a car.(hindsight:you can't HELP but hear G's car its LOUD -and he is proud of that fact),but Noobie doesn't react and I assume they didn't stop. Then I hear a knock ..and realize someone just saw me upside down as they walked up to our house.
-Ah, G and M in all their drunken "tilt in hand" glory,and their dirty shoeless baby in a sagging filthy diaper. "the other is sleeping in the car" they tell me...and walk in.

I take naked Rory to the bedroom to slip an outfit on her(she's a nudist).G tells me he was hoping to talk to Ri "alone"..I tell him Ri is at work, and considering he hasn't called me yet.. I'd guess he'll be another hour.

SOoo ..Here is the LOW down.The back story -The whole crazy story-Minus some details (which I have always avoided myself.)

crazy flashback low budget special effects
I have known G since I started dating Ri.He was the one we could always count on to give us a ride , a hand-anytime.It goes without saying we got into a lot of crazy teenage adventures.
Dad used to tease that he wasn't sure which one I was dating because they were always together to pick me up.G was a few yrs older than RI- it got a bit weird(and many of our mutual freinds did NOT approve) when G started dating my MUCH younger friend Jen-..but,surprisingly it seemed to work out really well.
G was ,well,always a bit well,slow. He is great with his hands,and sweet as can be,and he is smart about a lot of things..but he was home schooled by his ultra conservative parents(who actually believe scientist made up dinosaurs )..and socially a bit lacking. Jen 10 yrs his younger was honestly good for him.He was shattered when she dumped him(she actually dumped him saying " she needed a boyfriend in school with her" LOL). To this day I think he was best off with her- and wonder what if.. not even so much what if they stayed together more- what if he found another good influence on him.

So anyway, heart broken G rebounded-quickly.
Cut to the time when G's parents actually being the OVERLY kind people they are had taken in Ri, and a few of G's other down and out friends.G ends up meeting this girl -this 17 yr girl who said she had no place to go,her 30 yr old boyfriend was kicking her out.This girl- was the most classless person I have ever met-easily...thats putting it mildly,she was named after liquor,I could go on about her faults for days-but I won't. She moved in with G and his parents that night.
Years pass- and they stay together, she cheats on him here and there,everyone knows.He is so dependent on her(not sure why) he ignores it every time.He is influenced pretty negatively by her. As dirty as she was, she was clean(er) though. She didn't smoke and rarely drank and , looking back I realize can thank her for keeping G from it as much as she did.

They get married-thunder cracks on the clear day the second she says "I do",the unity candle light goes out.
- She disappears on night after work - he picks her up the next morning at guys house covered in hickeys has a kid 9 months later.It is obvious the blond haired blue eyed boy isn't his- years later he confessed to us that he knows,but doesn't care.Told ya , he is a GOOD guy.9 months later she gets preggy again(yes,ONLY 9 months)and they have another boy.
We visit- this was before I had Rory.
Visits are hard- She hits them, BABIES.Not like taps, like SPANkS her very young babies.She doesn't change diapers until they almost fall off.Every visit I found myself cleaning and caring for these kids.She cheats on G again.We hang out with them less and less.
They get in fights.HUGE fights..G starts getting ready to leave her.
He starts meeting girls. She catches him... they fight more.He files for divorce,new girl "M" moves in with him, and Xgirl takes the babies. Custody battle follow.He does manage to prove she was a bad parent.All those years we have all told him- but G always had this idea, all of that was the mothers job. He gets full custody of the boys- She brings them to him ,and one has an actual blister from sitting in his dirty diaper in a carseat, the ped said he must of sat in a soiled diaper for days :( .
M- seemed better than last girl was.She's got a hell of a history tho-just left her xhubby. Lost custody of both of her 1st children,Ex drug abuser.Turns out- she preggy(from her x most likely),has a boy- in the passenger seat of their pickup before they make it to the hospital.
She in the middle of trying to get custody of her daughter back-they get married,go to parenting classes..but,they don't get custody.
M... smokes.even when she is pregnant.She likes pills.She drinks-also when she is pregnant.She gets pregnant, again- barely 9 months after having boy..and has another boy.

4 boys.They are never in a properly installed car seat.They eat junk,They are hit and yelled at. Ignored.M drops them off most of the day in preschool and daycare.Or with the grandparents, or with a friend-Until preschool & daycare start threatening to call CPS over this and that-then she switches to a different one.M calls frequently to ask for things.Cigs,money a ride .M thinks we are well off..and always acts like we owe them. We start avoiding her calls.
She spends many days sitting in the car while G works with their youngest baby.EVERYONE I know has reported them , for the way their babies are/aren't cared for.EVERYONE. My mind is BOGGLED they have their children -still. (a mutual friend told us that he thinks G's parents actually claim custody of the children to the state- which sounds about right.)
Gets to the point we rarely communicate with them.We hear rumors they started doing crack and shaking up with random druggie girls.
She leaves him for a girl one day.
he cheats on her another.
back and forth.We hear the rumors...but we have avoided being around them.
Recently G called to tell Ri: "WARN him"even, that another mutual freind of ours had "raped" M - years ago...and M just told him.Its blindingly clear that he most likely didn't rape her...but he probably did sleep with her.We get ahold of mutual freind and ask him...he confirms.

Soooo back to last night.
I try to call Ri for G but he isn't off work yet and doesn't take his cell in anymore after his job killed his last 2 cells.
M asks to use my internet.She is trying to get a credit card for G- who just lost his job...
I have no idea what she was thinking.
G rolls his eyes at her
They pay no attention to the kid running around my house with a sagging baby diaper.I find him an old lil swimmer of Rory's(thats all i had)
i tell G I am just worried bout him driving around with the kids like that- he says he has to "'cause of her!".
G asks me to go outside for just a sec- Out of ear range of M he tells me "the rape story was all a lie! She is screwing around on me, I hate her, I want to leave her. I can't stand her" fine. good for him- i guess?He is drunk and all I can think is who the fuck is taking care of these kids?!G has the antiquated idea that women are the only ones that can care for the children...
So, he acts as if they aren't even his!or at least not his responsibility.He says he is PISSED the way she parents-but still doesn't parent them himself?
and,I dunno what goes on in M's head!
I get ahold of Ri. hand the phone to G.
.. walk around the house monitoring the children.

Ri tells G he will be awhile.. G & M decide to go home and get diapers and then come back.They can't get the baby to leave Rory. M asks if she can leave him for the 45 mins or so.- g says "no way" I wasn't going to say ok- but I didn't want the baby to get back in the car unrestrained most likely- with them not sober.So , I say leave him.-half wishing they had brought the other baby in, and I could save that baby the car ride.
Surprisingly ,Rory was the less behaved one- being bossy to the poor boy.
Dreams of speghetti dinner shattered I clean the kitchen while entertaining the children.
Ri gets home and changed and shortly after G & M return.Ri and G spend hours sitting out front talking.G told M he needed advice.
During that time M is downloading yahoo games to my desktop-and I am watching the child.

Eventually, they leave.
I doubt anything has come of it.I do not know what will happen next.
I know.... you were probably hoping this story had some sort of ending.No.
Just like the beginning I am left wondering why G can't do better for himself..why he does what he does to himself.Wondering why the state has not taken away their children.

Ri says G even said as much lastnight "Why do I end up with such trashy women??"
he says G wants a divorce but he is soo afraid he will lose his boys-and obviously doesn't know how to care for them alone.-sigh,I guess all thats left is to wait for him to rebound...and hope its a better bounce.

Please, think good thoughts for his boys, though.I am at least mildly comforted that they spend much of their time with their grandparents and daycare :( .

....please stay tuned for you regularly scheduled blog programming.

Friday, July 25, 2008

Possessed fairy princess

Not been up to a terrible lot-
been playing with photoshop a bit more- I've learned to do some neat things like changing hair color- and flaming letters-

did some crafts with Rory-

Its been SUUPER stormy out- want to play outside but it seems to be perpetually stormy out. We DID sneak out for bit the other day
Noobie looks soo cute and fluffy all clean

--NEED help LOLcaptioining this

Ri went to the store Wednesday with Rory- brought home all kinds of goodies while I stayed home.He said Rory was sooo sweet,and helpful. Got us some ice cream ,too--Which means: Rory has ate really good,
but only in hopes of getting ice cream dessert after every meal .
We ended up crashing really early last night,before Ri even made it home :( ,
can't believe Rory slept all night tho.

Rory has been such a goof-
we had a blast dressing up Noobie as a fairy princess tho-

poor dog
LOLdogcaption ideas welcome

--Rory needs a bath.She's been fighting those lately :(

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Youtube videos are odd on here ,so I put these lines as a visual aide for myself, LOL- I let Rory style them

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My blog has been possessed!!!EEeeeek. ...or maybe my daughter is
...Lissy thinks we are haunted based on Rory paranoia and my leg pain. Which went away finally.

Sari called this morning- for advice about her breastpump- I gues she got it figured out 'cause she hasn't called back
- ri stopped in tonight,brought them dinner,says they looked exhausted. I hope she sticks with BFing.. i really do. She says Lily is doing really good,tho.

I made lentil soup for dinner, with mashed potatoes. Rory ate loads of it,and sat at the table telling us this SWEET long story:"Once upon a time , a girl named Aurora was big, and I got in the car ,in your seat daddy and drove to the store and got us three ice creams and some tuna for Noobie....." sooo freaking cute.She cuddled up with a bowl of ice cream after dinner watching Cinderella, then ,even, reminded me to brush her teeth before she fell asleep

told ya, not much has been going on.
I'm going to bed.